Debate.
Argue.
Bitch.
Moan.
Complain.
Women do it all the damn time.
My favorite line is: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit.
Love it! Nothing like beating a black man down when he’s already low from a hard day working for the man, riiight?
I think women argue about nothing because the usual relationship conversation is too monotonous. Discussing our day at work/school and planning our usual movie/dinner weekend date is BORING. Necessary but *snooze*.
So to add some spice to the relationship we take the discussion about being busy with work/school to mean he’s cheating and next thing you know chick is shouting: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit!
When asked why women argue about stupid shit or shit that doesn’t even exist, a friend admitted that she does it because she likes a little DRAMA in her relationship.
Personally, I do it because I like to be in control, and the moment I feel like I’m not wearing the pants I freak and start screaming: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit! Plus, what better way to establish the dominant/subservient roles in a relationship than by making your partner feel insecure with his manhood, duh!
Problem is, grown ass men with careers know they are the shit, and will never be anything less…so telling them otherwise doesn’t really add “good” drama to the relationship. It just proves that you’re not as “grown” as you claim to be.
It seems the only time “nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit!” is appropriate is when the dude is truly a complete loser and worth being cut from your team (even if he didn’t cheat).
I’m trying to get my friend to understand that her dude isn’t a punk. That all this good drama is going to run him into the arms of a woman who will silently deal with her insecurities and let a man be a man (even if he ain't shit half the time).
So for 2010, no more drama.
Argue.
Bitch.
Moan.
Complain.
Women do it all the damn time.
My favorite line is: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit.
Love it! Nothing like beating a black man down when he’s already low from a hard day working for the man, riiight?
I think women argue about nothing because the usual relationship conversation is too monotonous. Discussing our day at work/school and planning our usual movie/dinner weekend date is BORING. Necessary but *snooze*.
So to add some spice to the relationship we take the discussion about being busy with work/school to mean he’s cheating and next thing you know chick is shouting: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit!
When asked why women argue about stupid shit or shit that doesn’t even exist, a friend admitted that she does it because she likes a little DRAMA in her relationship.
Personally, I do it because I like to be in control, and the moment I feel like I’m not wearing the pants I freak and start screaming: nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit! Plus, what better way to establish the dominant/subservient roles in a relationship than by making your partner feel insecure with his manhood, duh!
Problem is, grown ass men with careers know they are the shit, and will never be anything less…so telling them otherwise doesn’t really add “good” drama to the relationship. It just proves that you’re not as “grown” as you claim to be.
It seems the only time “nigga you ain’t shit, and you ain’t neva gone be shit!” is appropriate is when the dude is truly a complete loser and worth being cut from your team (even if he didn’t cheat).
I’m trying to get my friend to understand that her dude isn’t a punk. That all this good drama is going to run him into the arms of a woman who will silently deal with her insecurities and let a man be a man (even if he ain't shit half the time).
So for 2010, no more drama.
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4 comments:
Oh so true...I been there and done that...and it gets you nowhere....and will eventually have him looking elsewhere even if its a new woman all together or someone on the side as a break from the confusion...I dont argue at all anymore...I walk away then talk about it later when I am no longer upset...
I concur... I also think this need for drama just worsens the "angry black woman" perception so many men have...a little boy probably thinks all that drama and mess is half-cute, but like you said a grown man who has his shit together isn't bound put up with it for too long.. our Black men already have the whole world downin' them. They don't need their woman doing it too! (unless, of course, he really ain't shit...then he needs to be called on it).
i love it. insecurity sucks, though...i find that when i silently deal with it, i get over it with my dignity still in tact.
Its good to see some honest sistas speaking the gospel...
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